I am looking for my kids to improve his personality developement like stage fear, communication skill. He is 4.8 years old. kindly suggest.

Dear Sivahari I guess you are an Overzealous Parent. Children should grow up in the normal way as they should. This childish Talk, behabiour etc, will automatically disappear as he grows up. Please enjoy every moment of his Growth. Giving such Trainings at such a young age will only make him irritated and will suppress his natural skills. If needed these skills can be imparted after 10 years or so. Shivkumar read less

One of the most effective ways to reinforce a behaviour is Positive reinforcement, Whenever your child does good deed acknowledge it and praise him. Further for communication skills - A child learns from the Parent. Hence if you want your child to be better at communication, you yourself must b better. Then after attending the school ask questions like what did you learn? How was your Day? Enact certain scenarios with him being the center of attraction. For Public Speaking encourage him to sing a loud, or let him sing in front of the relatives and enforce positive thoughts, ask him to say a poem, or whatever he knows, try to involve him in group activities outside the family also. This will help him to overcome shyness. I guess my answer satisfies your query. read less

Dear Sivaharikumar Sir, I hope you're well. At the age of 4, every child needs to know the basic communication skills in the language you speak at home and at school. Some of these skills include - being able to form sentences to convey what they want, what they don't want, what they like, what they don't like. Additional to these skills, they would have picked up a style of communication from the people around them at home and at school via friends and teachers. It is common for children of that age to be shy to perform or talk out loud with attention centered on them under a spotlight. One of the main reasons for this is that once a child passes the age of being a toddler, they will be exposed more and more to engage with more people at school. Every person is different and even if your child is like any other child, he/she is a person of their own and will prefer to take their own time to bond with another person or group of people. The internal personality traits are wired differently for everyone which is easily classified into 2 types - introvert and extrovert. Pushing a child to perform on pressure has to have a limit, where they must feel 'encouraged' not 'forced'. You have to be a part of the developing process. Show your child that you too are taking part in the same activity so that they don't feel like they're being pushed to do something you're not willing to do. As a parent, you are their role model, their example and their guide. As for communication, try different activities that can engage different communication skills. Such as - ask them simple questions at this age "How was school today?" - is a very broad question. Narrow it down to - "Tell me the most funniest thing that happened in school today." and "Did you learn how to write your alphabets today? Let me see how you write the word 'Car' in your best handwriting!". Make each question sound simple, fun to carry out and something a child that age can get their heads around. The key to improving personality development and communication is self-confidence and for children, the most important guide and support comes from the parents and social circle. Be willing to get involved in their activities as though you are the same age and you are going through the same challenge in resolving something (eg. respond to a problem saying, "Oh dear me, how do I solve this? Hmmm... let's see... Ha! Why don't we try this instead?"). This will teach your child to follow the same methods subconsciously to resolve a personal challenge. This way, they will become confident in building their personal aura as their own style. Stage fear will diminish once they are able to feel confident in overcoming small day-to-day challenges. I hope this approach is something you can try and follow. Let me know if it works with your children and any thoughts you may have. All the very best :-) Kindest regards, Ambika Jois (Personal Performance and Personality Development Coach and Student/ Youth Counselor) read less

It is early to be worried about what is on your mind but never late to be aware of & guide the kids on the same. Ask them to take part in all the activities in the class, ask them to respond to every question in class, get them to read their regular book lessons loudly at home, speak to them in the language you want them to be good at.....at times it has come to light that the parents need more guidance in bringing up kids. read less