0Hi People,
Who love Gifts?
I know it's a silly question, But its Important.
Everybody of them knows that "All love Gifts". Especially Children loves Gifts.They are fond of receiving gifts for everything and for every occasions.
In that case today we are discussing .whether gifts shapes/ Spoils children:
But before that, lets see the reasons for Parents Gifting Children :
As we look beyond the external act of giving gifts, the research on child and adolescent development tells us something very important about what happens in children’s internal worlds. It’s a season that shapes their lifelong identities.While many parents want to show their child their love and make them happy with even small gifts, one thing is for certain, even small gifts constantly throughout the year can take a little bit away from the fun of a holiday or birthday gift.
Reasons for Gifting Children:
1. Children are everything to parents, We love them than anybody in this world.
2. What we parent did not get during our generation , that we as parents now providing to our children .
3. Child satisfying Parent's Expectations
4.To calm their Weeping/Tantrums. and
5. One and Only child for the parents.
Now let's see Do Gifts Spoils or Shapes Children?
Giving a child too many gifts can cause a number of different issues according to some parenting styles.
1). Become accustomed to receiving gifts :
Children who receive, receive, receive sometimes lose sight of the fact that as adults they may not have this same luxury. Oftentimes these children fail to develop good work habits and independence.
2). Develop a lack of appreciation for what is received " :
When a child gets used to receiving gifts constantly, receiving loses its luster. They tend to think that appreciation is no longer necessary because they will continue to receive anyway.
3). There is no longer a reward for good behavior :
If gifts are constantly received, rewards for good behavior, grades, etc. are no longer meaningful. Some would argue that without a reward these children are more likely to act out, seeing as there is no motivation to behave.
4). A greater likelihood of not taking care of what they have :
A child that receives new gifts constantly tends to lose appreciation for what they have (as previously mentioned), and a lack of appreciation often causes children to become frivolous with what they have. They are more likely to throw around these toys, break them and lose them as they assume they will just get more.
These issues are just a few of the reasons why some parents choose not to shower their children with gifts and to avoid the problem of a spoiled child.
Typically we people / parents don’t believe that gifts spoil a child and they want to make their child happy through all means possible. Many people give gifts for the sheer pleasure of making a child smile and being able to give their child something that perhaps they didn’t have when they were young. But Children take that for granted..
During infant ages, no issue. But during adult stages this may cause a poor behavior. They might take us for granted, and throw - show tantrums and adamant behavior, they disrespect us, through will we would suffer badly. And it is tough to handle.
Parents don't give chances for such Occurrences. Be Aware of Giving too much of gifts.
How to reward Children other than gifts will be seen in the next post.
Thank You People
This is a story of Parent with a Single Child. Story tells about how a child is spoil because of receiving gifts / things he wanted... in adamency for no reason.
